Marriage Can Feel Like the Coldest Fall

A marriage must be able to endure the peaks, valleys, ups, downs and seasons of life. Sometimes it starts in the the peak of Autumn which can be deceiving. This is an introspective journey of what I saw through my eyes, felt in my heart and some of the wisdom that I’ve attained from my experience.

When I heard that Kim and Kanye we’re getting divorced I wasn’t cynical or even thought that I saw it coming. I have empathy for them both. No one goes into a marriage thinking that’s it’s going to fail. The phrases that I keep hearing is that people grow apart or fall out of love.

Really? Are you sure about that? Or are marriages just disposal experiments where everyone finds themselves? What do humans really want? What are we looking for? Do we want the appearance of what everyone thinks marriage is or do we want what our soul longs for?

You’re either going to keep chasing that temporary fix that fizzles out or you want a true lasting covenant. The latter will be for visionaries of love that can see the long game.

Woman of your dreams. Check. Propose by renting out a stadium. Check. Wedding in Italy, billionaire and 4 good looking kids. Check. Still didn’t work. Whether you’re a billionaire, thousandnaire or hundrednaire most are in love with the idea of love. You don’t marry a partner. You marry a dopamine rush.

This isn’t just about celebrities either. It’s about you too. Let’s not even get into unhappy people getting together. God bless you all but I’m usually not a part of these overtop proposals and weddings.

I remember my wedding was more what I outwardly thought everyone else wanted. What about what we wanted? What really matters? None of those people that dressed up, came for the open bar and to do the electric slide ( Reception line dancing) are going to be there throughout the ups and downs.

So when the show is over and everyone goes home it’s you and your spouse. That’s all that matters. If I get married again most won’t even know about it. For what? It’s not about you. It’s about us and what we want. I…

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